11 Quick Routines That Will Allow You To Easily Start A Conversation With ANY Woman In ANY Setting… And Dozens Of Venue Specific Examples That Make Approaching Women Almost Too Easy For You!
￼￼The Bad Ass Introduction
Inside the Simple Inner Game System ebook I revealed why situational openers are the best way to start conversations: it’s spontaneous, it’s unexpected, it’s about her and not some rehearsed pick up line, and best of all… it’s real easy to learn how to do it.
Now it’s time to expand your mind a little bit…
Because on the next couple of pages you’ll find a whole bunch of killer routines for starting conversations with women, in fact, I’ll even give you some venue specific things you can say and do so you’ll easily be able to be the guy who can interact with ANY woman in ANY environment.
Successfully approaching is winning half the dating game my friend, so definitely test out several of these routines, see what’s working for you, and KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
These are MY routines and although you can use them as you see fit, it’s best if you use them as a starting point for creating your own material because you DON’T want to become a clone of me… you want to be yourself AND be successful with women doing that.
So see these routines as a stepping stone towards creating your own “style” of approaching and dating women.
Part 1: General Routines
Here’s the story: I’m about to share some routines with you that you’ll be able to use to approach women no matter where you are. Hell, you can even use some of them online or while talking to a girl on the phone.
Some of these routines will give you things to say and it’s important that ￼you stick to the program. Sounds more difficult than it is, because all it means is that if you for example say that you don’t know your way around where you are… then don’t screw it up by forgetting that you don’t know the place!
Seems obvious, but I just wanted to make sure that you won’t make any mistakes that you can easily prevent. But, follow the instructions I’ll give you and you’ll be fine and on your way to getting more phone numbers and getting more dates without much effort.
The New Guy Routine
How to do it:
You: “Hey, can you tell me where I can find the …?” Her: “bla bla”
The psychology behind it:
You can use the New Guy Routine either to ask how to get from A to B ￼￼￼(“can you tell me where I can find the nearest bank?”) or where to find an item in any type of venue (when in a supermarket: “can you tell me where I can find the peanut butter?”).
Make it easy for yourself and pretend you’re a guy who just moved there that doesn’t know anyone and doesn’t know his way around. Let your intentions be known so it makes sense that you’re approaching her. This way you can ask her more questions like where the good clubs and bars are at, hell, you can even get a girl to introduce you to her hot friends at a later date if you play your cards well.
After you start the conversation with it, you can transition to using character traits to create attraction like I explained in the Simple Inner Game System ebook. So, it’s either a lead-in to a fun, interesting conversation or you can use it as a theme throughout the conversation as ￼￼something you can fall back on when you run out of things to say.
Results: when going out, you can ask a woman in the center of town where the good clubs are at and she might just walk you there or even better… invite you to come inside with her. Last time I used this one I asked two caramel colored cuties where the good clubs where at and next thing I knew? I walked into the club with them and was sandwhiched by ￼them grinding all over me on the dancefloor. And that’s what we want now, don’t we?
The Tasteful Routine
How to do it:
If you see a woman with a drink or some food in her hand, ready to take a sip or a bite, walk over there and say:
You: “what you got over there? Let me have a bite!” Then you simply grab whatever’s in her hand and taste it.
Off course, when she has a drink in her hand you say “Let me have a sip” instead of asking her for a bite from a glass because that would be weird dude.
￼￼The psychology behind it:
I know what you’re thinking right now: “why the hell would I grab something from a woman and taste it? Wouldn’t that be rude? Wouldn’t she be offended by it?”
Well, here’s the story: look closely to how attractive women behave around men. Whenever a guy’s having himself some icecream for example, they’ll say “Hmm… looks tasty! Can I have a bite, pleaaaase?” The confident ones will even grab a bite or a sip without asking, so what you’re doing is using reverse psychology by being an attractive guy who does the same with women.
It will tell a woman something about how confident you are, that she’s a guest in YOUR universe, especially if she’s with a group of friends. Dominance is attractive… and things pretty much don’t get more dominant ￼￼than this routine.
If you’re in for some fun, you can even get away with playing a food or club inspector who has to sample the goods to test for quality, then do the routine, and totally bust a woman’s balls for being so naïve that she actually believed your story.
￼Results: you may very well end up going out next time only to get your drinks for free the entire night because you can’t stop taking a sip. I know I did.
The Helpful Routine
How to do it
Depending on the location, you ask a woman to help you out with something by giving her opinion. There’s a whole range of possibilities for the Helpful Routine:
– You’re in a clothing store and need to find something nice for your sister’s birthday
– You’re in a shopping mall and need to find a Christmas present for a female colleague but need advice
– You need to lift something heavy and put it in your car but you need
￼￼someone to open the door for you
As you can see, the possibilities are endless. You only have to say “can you help me out? I need to …” and you just fill in what you want help with on those 3 little dots.
The psychology behind it
The Helpful Routine is based on human nature: it’s no problem for anyone to help out a friendly fellow human being with a small task, especially for women and their motherly instincts.
The cool thing about the Helpful Routine is that the moment you get a woman to help you out, you’ll spend some time with her. You either spend time with her going through racks of clothing, while walking to a store where you’ll find what you need, while walking to your car… and the list goes on.
That time you’ll spend with her gives you more than enough opportunities to get to talking, to create attraction with your character traits, and to create a bond with her.
Results: don’t underestimate the power of this routine: it sounds really simple, but power is in simplicity. An instant date is just around the corner when you ask a woman to open the door of your car so you can put that heavy TV or whatever inside and you offer to buy her a cup of coffee as your way of saying thank you.
P.S. you don’t even have to carry an ACTUAL heavy object, you can also just pretend like the box you’ve got in your hands is super heavy while it’s empty in reality…
The Opinion Routine
How to do it:
You simply walk up to a woman or a group of women and tell them you want her/their quick opinion on something. The format for it is really simple: you ask for an opinion about a topic that interests women. Topics like love (dating, cheating, relationships), fashion, scandalous celebrities, popular movies or tv shows and female fantasies. After a woman gives her opinion, you give yours. Whatever you do, let your intentions be known so
￼￼it makes sense that you’re approaching her
Examples of the Opinion Routine:
– Ask a woman that if someone is in a relationship, if she thinks it’s cheating when you’re flirting in a club while nothing physical happens. And then if it’s cheating to get a phone number and flirt over text, even though nothing physical has happened. She’ll assume that it’s the guy who’s doing that, so tell her it was the woman getting numbers and flirting. Sometimes her opinion will change, which is fun to tease her with…
– Ask a woman whether or not a straight guy can date a bisexual woman. After she gives her opinion, tell her one of your friends actual has an ex- lover in common with his girlfriend: his ex is her ex as well… and ask her opinion on that.
– Ask a woman if you look gay. She’ll probably tell you that’s a weird question or that you don’t, after which you tell her that this gay dude has been trying to flirt with you all night (works especially well if you imitate gay behavior for a minute or two). Ask her opinion about that and then ask what she would do if a bisexual woman would flirt with her.
￼￼- Tell a woman that you were thinking about watching …. (romantic movie title here), but your friends thought it was gay and then ask her if she thinks it faggy too.
– Ask a woman who lies more: boys or girls… and tell her that she’s lying after she gave her answer. Works especially well if you ask her right after that if she would date an attractive guy who’s in a wheelchair. Most women will say yes, so tell them they’re lying and pretending to be good girls.
If you want more examples, then I highly recommend you type in “opinion openers” on Google because there are hundreds, if not thousands, of examples of the Opinion Routine to be found all over the internet.
The psychology behind it:
People love it when their opinion is deemed important and everyone has an opinion about almost everything, they just need to get the opportunity ￼to voice that opinion. That’s where you come in. No matter if you’re in a bar, at work, in college, at a social occasion, you can use the Opinion Routine to start an interesting conversation every single time.
Hell, you can use it as a theme throughout your entire conversation by asking for a woman’s opinion multiple times and end up having these crazy and fun interactions with women that the both of you will remember for a long time.
There’s subtle power in the Opinion Routine if you manage to get into a discussion with her about her opinion, because minor conflicts draw people more closely together whether you realize it or not.
Women want a man who knows what he wants, he doesn’t kiss ass and nodds yes in agreement to everything, who fights for what he believes in… and you can show all these qualities just by getting into discussions, not giving up your point of view, and making fun of a woman’s view on things.
The Opinion Routine works exceptionally well when you’re dealing with groups of women, because different people have different opinions and you’ll be likely to see the women getting into a discussion among themselves so the conversation will basically run itself. You just have to ￼point it in the right direction to get the results you want.
Results: if you play your cards right, you could see a cat fight among a group of women who disagree with each other and are all trying to get your attention and to have you all to themselves. Happened to me several times. It’s hilarious to experience and also gives your confidence a MAJOR boost.
P.S. You can expand upon the concept of the Opinion Routine by asking even if … questions. Example with the wheelchair thing: would you date the guy even if the wheels were all squeeky, even if he his body gets worse over time, and so on. Try to find the one situation that she’s willing to contradict her opinion for and bust her balls for it. Works every time!
The Direct Routine
How to do it
This if for the guys with a little confidence out there, because you show your intentions right off the bat in a very direct way instead of beating around the bush by asking opinions and making conversation from there. Here’s how it works:
You: “Hi there. I would regret it when I walk away without saying this to you, I just have to say it. I think you have a really cool vibe about you.” Her: “Bla bla bla” (wait for her response)
It’s important for you to wait until she responds, so wait like 5-10 seconds or you’ll take all the power of this technique away because you talked your way out of it. If she doesn’t respond you can always say “did I make you shy there?” and they’ll almost always quietly agree…
Afterwards, you can simply introduce a time constraint by telling her you have to go to work or meet some friends or whatever and ask for her phone number. Real easy way to get women’s phone numbers if you ask me.
The psychology behind it
The Direct Routine works really well when you approach women in any other place than in clubs or bars. You see, women are used to being approached by men when they go out clubbing so your compliment will make much less of an impression. I’m not saying it won’t work, but saying it’ll have less of an effect than when you would use it in a store, on the street, during a social occasion or even online.
Why does it work well there? Because women aren’t used to being approached in those settings and they sure as hell aren’t used to receiving genuine compliments. Sure, they’re used to guys telling them they have a nice ass, a pretty face and so forth… but when you compliment them on the vibe they’ve got going?
Then it says something about who they are instead of how they look and it will make a lasting impression. Plus, it takes guts to say something like that. Guts that most men just don’t have… and that’s attractive.
Now, you don’t HAVE to say they’ve got a really cool vibe going. You can also say they look like a high energy person that’s loving life and that you like that. Or, that they radiate confidence or happiness and that you think it’s attractive.
￼￼What also works really well is telling a woman she’s got the “x factor”, that there’s something about her that you can’t put your finger on that made you want to meet her.
Results: if she gets shy, says thanks, or grins from ear to ear (and most do), she’s interested in getting to know you better. I’m not a Brad Pitt or whatever but I am an above average looking guy and have noticed that women respond way better to the Direct Routine with me than to, say, busting their balls. Why? Because they expect cocky, braggy behavior from a good looking guy but they don’t expect one with a genuine interest without the attitude.
￼￼The High Maintenance Routine
How to do it
You can use this wherever. In clubs and bars, online, in college. Doesn’t matter. It goes a little something like this:
You: “You know what? You look like a high maintenance kinda person who doesn’t take crap from anyone and knows what she wants, just like me… and I’d like to get to know you better because you seem like a girl who likes to have fun.”
The power of the High Maintenance Routine is in the fact that if she ignores it or says “No”, she’ll automatically accuse herself that she’s NOT high maintenance, NOT someone that knows what she wants and NOT someone who likes to have fun. That’s not something someone’s ego can accept without being bothered about it.
In short: the words you use make it hard to ignore or deny it.
The psychology behind it
Really attractive looking women, the 9s and 10s or so to speak, have things going for themselves. They probably have some goals in their life and their very confident, so they aren’t easily impressed with a random guy they’ve never met before. They know they can get most guys they want to get and it shows: you first kinda have to approach them from their own state of mind.
You have to hit close to home and you do that by relating to them: “you look like a high maintenance kinda person who doesn’t take crap from anyone and knows what she wants, just like me…”
Use the High Maintenance Routine on really attractive women and the “walls” they’ve built around themselves will start to come down one by one, brick by brick. Keep relating to them, ask an opinion or two as well, and you’ll find that the 9s and 10s will actually respond WAY better to teasing, being picky and all the other character traits once you get to know them.
But that’s the thing about the 9s and 10s: they don’t care if they don’t know you, but care the world about it when you DO know them.
￼￼￼Results: you’ll suddenly find yourself getting numbers and getting dates with more and more attractive and interesting women as soon as you start using the High Maintenance Routine. I have something to admit too: I’m a high maintenance, highly confident guy with goals so this routine would work on me. And it has: a chick in college studying to become a lawyer picked me up with it and we still talk from time to time.
￼The Hit-and-Run Routine
How to do it
The Hit-and-Run Routine is more brutal than the other ones, but effective nonetheless and you know what they say right? If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it! Here’s what you do: you deliberately throw something at a woman, bump into her, or even more risky: spill a drink on her.
You can bet your ass that you’ll need confidence for this but after reading my Simple Inner Game System that shouldn’t be a problem. Here’s some examples:
– If there’s snow outside, simply throw a snowball on the woman you want to approach (don’t knock her out by hitting the head dude)
– If you’re on the beach, make sure you have a ball with you and throw that sucker so it lands right in the middle of a group of women or next to ￼a woman.
– If you’re at work or in college, simply accidently throw some paper meant for the garbage can… on a woman’s head.
– If you’ve got a drink in your hands, walk up to her, bump into her, and accidently spill that drink on her.
– If you’re at a crowded place, walk up to her and crash into her shoulder (not too hard though, but hard enough for her to notice)
Afterwards, you’ll play the knight in shiny armor by coming to her rescue and saying something along the lines of:
“Oh my god, are you okay? I didn’t see you there lady. I’m so sorry.￼￼￼Do you know how easy it is to say THIS at the end: “you know what? Let me make it up to you. Let me buy you a cup of coffee.”
The psychology behind it
Everybody apologizes when they accidently bump into someone or when they get dirt all on someone’s clothes. It’s a natural thing to do… and
￼everybody likes you to make it up to them if you ruin their clothes, their day, or their mood.
You simply cash in on that by deliberately bumping into women or getting them dirty and then making up for it… and making up for it will usually get you their phone number or an instant date.
Hey, I didn’t say you shouldn’t play dirty and the Hit-and-Run Routine kinda is playing dirty, isn’t it? But all is fair in love and war my friend and if a woman meets a cute, interesting guy she wants to date because you ruined her shirt or her mood temporarily? Then so be it! She won’t blame you for that.
Off course not!
Results: me and my friends used to spill drinks on purpose almost every weekend during the summer of 2006. I think we as a group were solely responsible for the sudden increase in women’s t-shirt sales in our area.
￼And when we got tired of that, we bumped into people and blamed them for spilling drinks on our shirts. We had lots of fun doing it. Playing dirty can be that much fun. You should try it some time.
The Random Chick Routine
How to do it
The moment you spot an interesting woman you’d like to meet, you walk up to the nearest woman you can find (preferably an attractive one) and ask her:
“Can you do me a favor? I really like that girl over there (… point at the one you’d like to meet…), can you introduce me to her?”
And 9 out of 10 times she’ll do it because of the same reasons ￼￼with the Helpful Routine.
This one works everywhere: in college, at work, in a club or bar, on the street, in a store. Doesn’t matter really.
The psychology behind it:
How many times have you approached a woman you don’t even know, ￼￼only to ask her to introduce you to that cutie that’s standing over there?
I’m willing to bet that your answer will be: NEVER… and yet, it works like a charm.
Here’s the juicy secret: remember page 20 of the Simple Inner Game System ebook where I shared the secret of pre-selection with you?
Basically, you’ll be more attractive to women when you’re already with a woman.
Have you ever wondered why more women seemed to be looking at you when you went somewhere with your girlfriend in the past? Well, it’s because of pre-selection.
So, if you walk up to a random chick (that’s where the Random Chick Routine got it’s name from) and ask her to introduce you to a woman you’re interested in?
￼￼You’ll create pre-selection on the spot, because if a woman introduces you to your “target” then you must be something special.
Then you must at least be a guy who’s comfortable around women and knows how to talk to women or they wouldn’t freaking introduce you to her.
I know what you’re thinking right now: “yeah right, like this is gonna work!” but I met my ex-girlfriend this way… how’s that for proof?
And if you want to see the Random Chick Routine caught on camera at it’s best, you should look on Youtube some time for a show called “Keys To The VIP” because in it they sometimes use this routine too… and with great success!
￼￼￼Plus, it’s a great and fun learning experience for any man who wants to get more results with women.
Now, if you’re really feeling bold you can even add a little twist to the way you use the Random Chick Routine so you can have two for the price of one:
￼“Can you do me a favor? I really like that girl over there (… point at the one you’d like to meet…), can you introduce me to her? I’ll buy you a cup of coffee in return.”
Do you see what I’m doing right there?
Not only will she introduce me to the woman I’d like to meet, but I’m also taking the random chick on a coffee date! Two dates for the price of one!
Subconsciously, seeing me talk to the that other woman may even make her a little jealous now that she knows she’s going on a coffee date with me…
Hey, I never said this was going to be written by a saint…
The Seat Taken Routine
￼How to do it:
The Seat Taken Routine is probably as old as man kind, but that’s not a bad thing. Instead, the fact that it has sticked around for so long can only mean that it works REALLY well.
Here’s how it works:
As soon as you see a woman or a group of women sitting somewhere that you’d like to meet, find the seat, sofa, couch, stool or any other thing you can sit down on that’s closest to them and simply ask:
“Is this seat taken?”
Don’t let your but be knocked out the park if she/they reply that the seat actually IS taken, because you can either bust their balls by asking: “By who? Your imagenary friend?” and then sitting down anyway…
Or you can simply say that you’ll take the chair, seat, stool or whatever right next to that (“I’ll take this one then”)
Again, power is in simplicity. Just you wait until you hear the psychology behind it, because although the Seat Taken Routine may sounds silly… it’s actually one of the most effective ways to start a conversation with women who are hanging out.
The psychology behind it:
Originally, asking if a seat’s taken is a way to ask for someone with good manners if he/she can sit down, which is exactly what you’re trying to do because you want to continue the conversation.
Sitting down when the woman or women you’re talking to are sitting around is a smart thing to do, because you’ll be less intimidating from a body language perspective.
Think about it: if women sit and you keep standing around, they’ll be somewhere below you and you literally come across like you’re talking down on them.
That’s why you sit down as well to talk to them from an equal level. You’re ￼￼basically leveling the playing field. Very subtle body language at play here.
Remember though that you should never, ever attach more value to a Routine to start a conversation than is stricly necessary because that’s all it is: a way to start the conversation.
The moment you get a reaction, it’s your green light to continue the conversation. Here you could continue with the Opinion Routine, or even the Random Chick Routine. Whatever you want to do.
The Seat Taken Routine is nothing more than a routine to level the playing field, make the first impression and get a woman to talk.
It works especially well with groups of women because somehow some way, joining a group who’s sitting around, you’ll feel more intimate than when you join a bunch of people who are standing around doing nothing.
The Savior Routine
How to do it:
Mark my words… women will literally thank you for using the Savior Routine. Here’s how it works:
Whenever you see a woman being bored by a loser who’s trying to pick up her without her showing any interest whatsoever, you save her from that desperate little wussy.
And whenever you see a woman being bothered by a jerk who’s acting all drunk, rude, or touchy-feely around her while she doesn’t want that, you save her from that jerk.
Simple: you walk up to her in a straight line, look her straight in the eyes and tell her…
“I saw you from way over there and you looked like you weren’t enjoying ￼￼yourself at all with this loser. So pretend I’m your boyfriend or something and I’ll save you from him!”
The reaction 9 out of 10 times: a giggle, a shy “okay”, and an attractive woman who will follow you wherever you go because she wants to get away from that loser or that jerk.
The psychology behind it
You’re being a little devil instead of an angel with the Savior Routine because you’ll “save” any and all women from men who screw up their own approaches.
So, in a way, you’re correcting any mistakes other guys have made and cash in on that.
￼￼It works so well because obviously, you saw a woman who wasn’t enjoying herself at all with that guy and she was looking for an excuse to get away from him… and you gave it to her.
And on a subconscious level, you’ll be much like a knight in shiny armor whether she realizes it or not: you saved the damsel in distress.
￼The knight in shiny armor fantasy is one that goes back thousands and thousands of years and it’s an archetype male in female psychology. Put simply, women are subconsciously looking for a man with “knight-like” qualities.
The damsel in distress is an archetype female in male psychology, because secretly, every man wants to be a woman’s hero and win her all for himself.
I’m sorry, did I go on a rant about psychology there? I hate when that happens!
Look, what you need to remember is that this one works really well and all you will have to do is look for guys who are screwing it up… and you know how easy that unfortunately is?
You can even show some major cohones with the Savior Routine by kissing the woman right after you tell her that she has to pretend that you’re her boyfriend…
And as soon as you get her alone you tell her that you had to make it look real and that the kiss meant nothing. Women love a man that’s hard to get, and by first kissing her and then telling you didn’t mean it?
You’ll be hard to get alright, haha!
The Screw Up Routine
How to do it:
You walk up to a woman, do your initial approach (doesn’t matter which one), and if she doesn’t respond well or ignores you… you tell her:
“Okay wait, wait. I messed up. Let me try again…”
￼￼￼Then you walk away a couple feet from her, turn around, and try to approach her again but now in an over the top, goofy and exaggerrated way.
The psychology behind it:
The Screw Up Routine will serve as your ultimate back up, as a tool you can use in case any other routine or way to approach a woman miserably fails, because you can simply pretend that you were screwing it up on purpose.
She doesn’t know you were serious the first time if you let her think you were kidding this whole time…
That’s the true power of this routine: it allows you to transform any other failed attempt to meet a woman into a successful attempt by making fun of yourself in increasingly exaggerated ways…
So, even if you do screw up that initial attempt to meet a woman? You can still save the day with the Screw Up Routine.
Exaggerate two to three other definitely flawed ways of approaching women and women will love you for it. You’ll be making fun of the dating game, you’ll be making fun of desperate losers or rude assholes who fail miserably in meeting them and… this is a big one… you’ll come across as being really confident in doing so.
￼You’re willingly making fun of yourself in front of a woman and don’t give a crap about what she will think of it. That at least hints at you having a lot of confidence, wouldn’t you agree?
Now, if you really want to connect all the dots here and get a fail proof way to use the Screw Up Routine, then here’s one:
1) First use your normal way of approaching women
2) If they don’t respond well or not at all, tell them that you want to try again, and approach them in a slimy, sucking up to them, almost gay-ish way. Really exaggerate it, including those typical gay comments and hand movements (you know which ones I mean right: “oh my God… that’s like suuuuch a nice shirt girl!” and so on)
3) By now they’ll be laughing, so now switch it up by being the complete ￼￼opposite: a rude asshole who throws the most inappropiate comments at them like “got milk?” Or “do you believe in love at first sight or do I need to walk by again?” and so forth.
They’ll call you crazy, tell you how you’re so funny, all because you don’t take yourself serious and you don’t need to: throw whatever weird approach at them that you want to throw at women, because as long as they know you’re not being serious and playfully make fun of approaching? They’ll love it.
Up next: venue specific routines that will help you approach, meet, and date women in specific places…
And I’m sure I’ve included places YOU go to a lot too, so I just know you’re going to love this part of your bonus…
Part 2: Venue Specific Routines
Since I want to make sure that I’ve done everything in my power to really help you take your approaching game to the next level, I’ll start off every setting real easy by giving examples of some of the Routines I just mentioned…
Keep in mind what I said in the Simple Inner Game System ebook though: women often open themselves… they often give you an invitation to start a conversation.
￼It’s something they’re carrying around, something they’re wearing, some way they look, something they’re doing…
So, don’t make approaching women any harder than it could be by trying to use a Routine when that weird, bright colored, super small handbag of hers is all you need… know what I mean?
Now, by all means… let’s continue!
Clubs and Bars
New Guy Routine
Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the men’s room?”
You can follow it up asking why she managed to tell you so fast, then accuse her of being a nymfo who mouthrapes unsuspecting drunken men ￼￼in the men’s room as soon as she gets the chance, and so on. Use those character traits to create attraction!
Remember: play your role of the new guy that needs to get to know his way around, preferably with a hot tour guide on his arm.
￼￼1) Walk up to her with a drink in your hand, then tell her to hold your drink for you.
If that doesn’t get her attention, then I don’t know what does. To top it, come back and playfully accuse her of putting something in your drink to get you spaced out so she can take advantage of you as her unwilling sex slave in her dark litte room.
2) Walk up to a woman who’s smoking, ask her for a cigarette, and put it in your pocket.
She’ll most likely look at you all amazed after which you say: “Hey, the fact that I asked you for a smoke doesn’t mean that I’m going to smoke it… right now. Just wanted to test if you’re a giver or a taker.”
You can even go all out with this one by asking for a light instead of a cigarette, then putting it in your pocket, teasing her, and asking for something in return before you give it back.
1) Tell her: “me and my friends always get into arguments about this, so I ￼￼think a woman’s opinion will help. What do you think: what’s the best night of the week to go out? Thursday night for students, Friday, or Saturday?”
Whatever she answers and whatever reason she gives, you can tease her with it:
– Thursday nights are for slutty college brats
– Friday nights are for the superfreaks because they don’t call it freaky Friday for nothing
– Saturday is for the boring, unoriginal ignorant people who think Saturday night’s the only good night to go out because they don’t know any better.
The reasons don’t really matter and can be based on bullsh*t, because as long as they’ll give you a way to playfully tease a woman (and thus create attraction)? ￼￼￼It’s all good!
2) Ask her: “who do you think is the WORST dancer in this joint? Tell me! I think it’s him (… point to a random guy who’s a crappy dancer or doesn’t dance at all…)”Women love dancing and women love fashion, so, asking their opinion about who they think SUCKS at fashion or SUCKS at dancing right then and there is always fun for them… Remember: you can use an opinion to start a conversation, or you can use it as a theme through the interaction by asking multiple opinions and turning it into a nice litte game.
3) Ask her: “what’s your opinion on smoking in public being prohibited? Let me guess: you must LOVE the guy who invented the law!”
In more and more countries it’s forbidden to smoke inside a club or bar, which forces all smokers to stand outside (most of the time outside in the cold).
I know exactly ZERO smokers who like it, so if you see a woman smoking and use a little sarcasm around her? It will definitely get her talking.
4) Ask her: “what’s the best drink they’ve got to offer here? And then I mean the biggest, baddest, best cocktail you’ve ever had!”
Won’t she expect a question like that being asked? Maybe, but she
￼definitely WON’T expect you accusing her of having bad taste no matter what cocktail she mentions.
She also won’t expect you to ask her if SHE can make cocktails and you teasing her that she’s such a lousy party animal if she can’t and that she’s a liar (and still a lousy party animal) if she says she can.
Take your pick. Lots of stuff you can do with this one.
Supermarkets (and Other Convenience Stores)
New Guy Routine
Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the rice up in here?”
It doesn’t matter what kind of item you ask her about really, as long as it’s WAY over there. If you’re smart, you’ll ask her the one thing that’s on the other end of the store.
Because she’ll have to give you several directions, so you can tease her about being a lousy navigational system or something along those lines.
Whatever’s the case, it’s to prevent her from saying: “here it is! Bye!” Chances are that she’ll walk you to the isle too (which gives you ample time to talk).
Ask her: “can you look after my cart for a minute?” Then give your shopping cart to her and simply walk away.
This one starts in the exact same way as the drink giving technique in clubs, only know you’ll be playfully accusing her for putting more stuff in your cart to take revenge on you having her wait for you.
You can tease her by putting more in her basket or cart, again, lots of stuff you can do here.
Ask her: “can you tell me what’s your most delicious but simple meal to make? I’m supposed to look after a friend’s kid today, cook for him and stuff, but I have no idea what to make and I could use a woman’s opinion on it.”
This one’s simply but deadly: remember the character trait of Being the Protector of Loved Ones from the ebook? And do you know how women love a man who can cook?
￼￼￼By asking her, you’ll get two for the price of one my friend!
Plus, explaining how she makes her favorite meal will take some time so you two will be taling for several minutes already.
You can get her number by telling her you’d like to get cooking lessons from here in exchange for XXX (… fill in something here…). There’s a whole range of possibilities inside this little opening routine.
New Guy Routine
Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the company cantine?”
After she gives you directions, it’s SO easy to ask what her opinion os on the food in the cantine.
￼￼See, everybody has an opinion about the food they serve during lunch at work because it’s almost never what they want.
For the people who like spices, big trouble because almost everything is spiceless to prevent complaints. For the people who don’t like spices, it’s the lack of choice or the price… and the list goes on and on.
You simply continue the conversation that’s already going on inside her head… and it works like a charm.
Walk up to a woman you’re interested in and ask her: “I’ve been talking about it with my colleagues for several hours now after I got this in traffic this morning and I want an outsider’s opinion on this one: what do you think is the best way to get here?”
I’ve talked about this several times now and one of the easiest things you can do to approach women is continuing the conversation that’s already going on inside people’s heads. When you really think about it, this gives you a heck of a lot to approach women with in the workplace (and in any other setting for that matter).
So ask yourself: what keeps people busy in the workplace? What’s the talk at the water cooler or so to speak?
– The stuff that comes out the coffee machine
– The quality of the food in the company cantine
– Arriving late at work because of that damn traffic (or public transportation)
￼￼- Risking your very life to get to work because it’s all snowy and slippery outside
– Ignorant colleagues that don’t seem to know what they’re doing AT ALL and probably got hired during a trip to the zoo (as in, the boss wanted a new monkey)
– Who’s doing it with who (any company romances that are much talked about are cool)
Like I said: lots of stuff to talk about.
New Guy Routine
Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the school cantine?”
This one works in the exact same way as the cantine at work thing: everybody has an opinion about the food there, so use it!
Ask her: “me and my friends have been going at it for ages but we just can’t decide. We need an outsider’s opinion: who’s the meanest teacher of the entire school?”
Again, you’re continuing the conversation already going on in people’s minds. Everybody remembers at least 1 mean teacher who was always grumpy, gave bad grades, and seemed to be a relative of the devil himself. Every school has one.
So, start a conversation with it when you’re still in college.
New Guy Routine
Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the nearest clothing store where I can get …?”
I’ve said it a million times and I’ll say it again: women love fashion, so use it to your advantage. Ask them where the nearest store is where you can buy a certain clothing style or a certain item and a woman will be happy to help.
Thinking along those lines, you can even tell her that she looks like a woman who has good taste and ask her to play your fashion expert and help you pick something.
Ask her: “can you hold this bag for me real quick? I’ll be right back!” And walk away.
Same as the drink thing in clubs and the cart thing in supermarkets. Use it in the exact same way but accuse her that she try to steal your fabolous clothes out of your bag.
And off course, offering to make up for her having to wait for you with a cup of coffee is never a bad idea.
1) Ask her: “I know women love shopping and go on shopping sprees that last several hours so I’m willing to bet that you’ll know this… what’s the best spot here to chill out after a long day of shopping?”
￼￼Again, conversation already going on in their head… continued. And it’s real ease to show some balls and tell her she looks beat and should probably sit down too.
Hell, make a fun game out of it and challenge her to do some people watching with you. Ever heard of it? It’s seeing who walks by and making rude comments about how they look and who they probably are. ￼It’s something different for a woman, and lots of fun.
2) Ask her: “what’s the best place to grab a cup of coffee over here? Because I’m beat after shopping for hours and hours!”
Men can’t stand going shopping with women, probably because it takes hours… and that’s a shame, because otherwise they would have known the routine that women follow when they go shopping:
They always shop until they drop, sit down when they’re beat, then grab a cup of coffee or a bite to eat for some energy.
And that’s great, because after you she tells you, you can easily tell her that she looks beat too and should join you.
If she resists, tell her it’ll be fun and that the coffee’s on you. Since she was already planning on sitting down and grabbing something for some energy, she’ll go along with it.
￼And hey… think twice next time women ask you to tag along when they want to do stuff, because you might just learn a routine or two that women go through that will help you approach women more easily.
On The Streets
New Guy Routine
1) Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the nearest ATM?”
Oddly enough, most ATM machines where you can get cash out of the wall, because that’s what they’re for, are somewhat tricky to find. So, it will take a woman a while to explain which gives you ample time to talk to her. It’s also a good way to continue the conversation, because you can talk about what you were planning on buying, what she was going to do, etc.
￼￼2) Ask her: “can you tell me where I can find the nearest supermarket?”
It doesn’t matter really for what you’re asking directions, because it’s just a tool you se to start the conversation. On the streets the New Guy Routine works amazingly well: you’re walking there feeling lost, don’t know your way around and could use some help.
Playing the new guy doesn’t get more convincing than right then and
￼there, so ask a second question about where she thinks the good clubs are at over there, tease her a little about her bad taste in music and if you’re looking for an easy way to get women’s phone numbers using this one?
Simply ask them to give you a tour of “their” city and in exchange you’ll give them XXX, with the XXX being either a cup of coffee, a lunch date, or something like that. Real easy and genuine way to get their number from a new guy perspective.
Ask her: “me and my friends have been talking about it for quite some time now and we need a woman’s opinion on this. Do you know those homeless people that are always harrassing you when you’re shopping, begging for change? Would you still give them some change if you knew they’re total junkies and are probably going to spend in on drugs?”
Most people will answer “No”, but create a little doubt there by saying they don’t know for sure what the junkie is going to do with the money and that maybe he’s just hungry… and you can have some very interesting conversations.
￼￼￼Off course, tease them with saying how they’re evil and selfish or that you don’t believe the angel act… and attraction is just around the corner.
Again, continue the conversation that’s already going on inside people’s heads. People walking about on the streets are bothered by:
– Homeless people begging for change
– Stepping into dog doo doo or freshly spit out chewing gum
Use your creativity because everybody experienced it sometime so everybody’s likely to at least respond to what you ask them about it.
Part 3: Final Words
Did you like my routines you can use to easily start conversations with women no matter where you are? I hope you did, because I wanted to overdeliver value to you with this first bonus and really give you something you can work with to get more results with women starting today.
￼You should see this ebook as a workbook, a practice manual you refer to often to try out a new Routine and to learn your next lesson. Play around with it a little bit, try out different routines and see which ones work for you and which ones don’t.
Don’t give up the moment one routine doesn’t work for you, because there are AT LEAST 10 totally different routines that COULD work for you so go out there and experiment until you get to the bottom of this and have yourself several routines you can use to effectively meet beautiful, interesting women.
Always remember these KEY insights from the Simple Inner Game System when you’re having trouble approaching women:
– Women often open themselves, so don’t overthink meeting them and pay close attention to their body language
– What you say first doesn’t really matter, it’s how you respond to what she says that creates the attraction
– A Routine is just a tool to start a conversation, so don’t use it as your be all, end all because sometimes saying “Hi” is enough.
Enjoy trying out these Routines!